Think Things are Bad? Think Again
I suppose in the grand realm of things, ie, endless war in Iraq (sorry Dubya, but hostilities are not over), hurricanes Katrina and Wilma, devastating earthquake in Pakistan, and a myriad of other diasters, this does not seem like a huge issue. But on the local front, it is.
A short time ago, a reader posted a comment on one of my entries about pharmacists refusing to write prescriptions for birth control. She asked me to take a look at her blog, where she told a really sad tale about an experiment in denial. In the first part of her story, Denied
she relates the unrelatable–she witnessed the owner of a drugstore refuse to sell condoms to a 16 year old girl.
Why, she asked.
Because she’s too young to be having sex, the man answered.
Now that’s the cretin idea of preventing sex among teenagers. If I don’t sell her the condoms, the fool thinks, they are going to sit down and rethink their decision to fornicate and decide that God will forsake them if they do. So they’ll shake hands and go home to their separate houses and strap on their chastity belts.
In real life, the teens will still screw, but they will put themselves at risk for STDs and an unwanted pregnancy. But who said cretins ever think about the real world?
“You have your mom come in and tell me you can have them and then I’ll sell them to you.”
He was nice about it but firm. I grinned thinking the girl had tried the age old line, “My mom asked me to buy her some cigarettes.” It’s a neighborhood store, so this guy isn’t buying it and has probably seen her before. I laughed again to myself. Good try kid.
The girl stands there for a second looking surprised. I’m thinking, how surprised could you be kid, trying to by smokes at your age. I just knew she was going to mouth off, but for the second time that day I was wrong. She politely and simply said, “OK” and then left the store.
So I walk up, lay my oj and honeybun on the counter and ask him. “What was she tryin to buy?”
He replied, “Condoms. Can you believe that, she’s only 16.”
The smile slid from my face and I must have looked as shocked and pissed as I felt because he started in with the excuses before I could open my mouth.
“Why the hell didn’t you sell them to her?!” I asked him in raised voice, but trying to stay calm.
He had been so certain I would agree with him, he was still smiling for a second but that didn’t last long. He must be married bcause he looked exactly the way my man looks when he knows he’s piqued my wrath. Looking back, I see that we could have been any couple arguing about their teenage daughter. Except for the fact that we were strangers.
There is no minimum age for people to buy condoms. This story would make sense if I thought it took place in 1930, but today? In 2006? What next, I wonder. We already have pharmacists who think they are some God-like creature and can decide what type of birth control a woman should be using. They think that their title of community pharmacist means that they have the right to dispense drugs that they feel morally good about. But now it goes a step further–a store owner sorting through the goods that are being purchased, the goods that do not require you to be a minimum age.
Puke, puke. Are fat people now going to have their cookies taken away at the check-out stand, or girls being told that they’re “too young” to be buying that mascara? Are teens not going to be permitted to buy tampons because that’s for “married ladies,” meaning that only married ladies should be sticking anything up their vagina?
I know that the man meant well. He knows this girl, he knows her family and probably thought he was doing the right thing. I’m sure he thought he was discouraging her from having sex but he may have just been encouraging her to have unprotected sex. Had she wound up with a child, was he going to help her take of it? If she wound up with an STD or even HIV was he going to foot the bill? What if he hadn’t known her? What if “she” had been a “he”. Would a boy have still gotten the moral judgement of “he’s too young” or would it be the age old double standard of “boys will be boys”?
Legally, can a store owner pick and choose what items to sell someone? I know store owners, even managers have the right to refuse service, but he actually sold her the other things she picked out. Does he have the right to choose which legal purchases she gets to make on the basis of his morality and her age?
I’m obviously overweight. What if the store owner thinks that being overweight is a morality issue. He feels it would be morally wrong to sell me a honey bun, but he’s happy to sell me orange juice because he feels it’s a better choice. Or depending on how well he knows me, maybe he sould require me to have a relative call with my calorie count for the day before selling me anything but water? Where dol we draw the line that keeps his nose out of my personal choices or anyone’s, especially someone trying to prevent the life-changing events of pregnancy and/or disease.
The blogger brings out a lot of good issues. She wrote a follow-up to this story about a week later, where she actually returned and confronted the owner. I’ll try to find the link to it tomorrow. But any way, this story is so disturbing because it’s sitting at the edge of a very distasteful trend.

